Hindu Wedding in Goa
Post Wedding Ceremonies
The Vidaai ritual marks the end of the wedding ceremony. It is very heart felt moment for the bride's family members, close relatives and friends. According to the ritual, bride should leave her father's home and go to the husband's home. It is a new beginning for a bride as she bids farewell to her parents and moves on to build a new life with her husband and his family. The bride's father gives her hand to her husband and blesses her for the successful life ahead. The ritual of Vidaai is marked as the most sorrowful and emotional moment of the wedding festivities. During this emotional moment, the saalis or sister-in-laws are gifted kalichari, which is a gold or silver (or cash) for returning the groom's shoes which were deliberately hidden by the sisters-in-law during wedding. Thus, in Vidaai, light banter and teasing (negotiation between groom and his new sisters-in-law) combine with emotions and tears.
Dwar Rokka ceremony is largely performed in the north Indian weddings. It is an important ceremony as per traditional Indian wedding rituals. Dwar rokai ceremony is held when newly wed couple arrives at groom's home. All the relatives offer couple a warm welcome but the groom's sister doesn't allow them to enter at home. She will only allow the couple to enter at home after getting some gifts or cash from her brother. After that, the couple gives her attractive gift and makes way for going to home.
At the groom's house, everyone is standing at the entrance of home, particularly the ladies, to welcome wholeheartedly the newly married couple. When the bride and groom arrive at the home, the ladies perform the ceremony of 'Griha Pravesh' for the bride. In the north Indian wedding, the Griha Pravesh ceremony maintains a huge significance. In fact, it is the traditional Indian way of welcoming the newly wed bride.
During the Griha Pravesh ceremony, bride pushes a jar or kalash containing rice by her right toe at the entrance. After that, she enters within the house by stepping her right leg first. The ceremony of Griha Pravesh illustrates that the family of groom has welcomed the bride from the bottom of the heart and accepted her as one of the integral member of their family. At some places in India, the bride also tells her husband name at the entrance and then enters to the home.
Hence, the post-wedding Griha Pravesh ceremony is the medium in which the bride puts first step at her in-laws and starts a new passage in her life.
Mooh Dikhai is one of the traditional post-wedding ceremonies held in many parts of the country. The mother-in-law, in particular, offers amazing gifts to the bride as the gesture of welcoming her. The other relatives of groom family also present some attractive gifts to the bride. Some of the Mooh Dikhai gifts can be gold or diamond jewelry, sari or cash. In India, presenting the gifts to new bride at this ceremony is considered as 'Shagun' that ought to be offered to her by the family of groom.
One of the most important post-wedding ceremonies is Pag phera. It is
being followed in all types of Indian weddings. During the Pag Phera ceremony,
the bride has to stay at her parental home for two or three days. But
before that, the bride's brother generally comes to take back her to his
home. When the ceremony ends, the groom come for taking her better half
and seeks blessings from her parents. On the other hand, the bride's parents
offer some attractive gifts to their daughter and son-in-law in the name
of shagun as this is her first visit to parental home after the big event.